…The landscape is changing…

So I shared this image on IG and said that my thoughts might ruffle some feathers with my own opinions on the sentiment.

I have taken a few days to really think about what I wanted to say and how to say it. Because everyones experience is different and this is just my opinion based on my own experience.

I am not here to shame women/womxn and at the end of the day you can do whatever you want its your body your choice. I have done a lot of things in my life that contradict what I feel now and that is okay because We are allowed to change and grow for the better especially if it works for us.

That being said I want to break down and add a few things...

RIP to casual sex 1970 - 2023
Every single person we have intimate experiences with is a deep energetic exchange and can leave energetic imprints.

Your aura is your energetic home why mess it up for someone who doesn't care and quite frankly may never do the work to heal themselves.... I think causal sex is empty and quite frankly not as fun as others may say it is.

Even over the years the more I do my yoga and meditation practice the less interested I am in sleeping around and pairing up. It feels daunting and like an energy drain not something that will fill my spirits. Because I know the vast majority are unclear on what they are seeking, OR know but are unwilling to be frank with it because they dont want to "miss the opportunity"

Which is a clear sign of lack of respect for the other person who knows what else is not being disclosed.

By staying single I have realized as well that i've gotten more clear on what I want and expect in a relationship with a partner and less than the bare minimmum is just not it for me.

Innocence, modesty and celibacy until you find someone you love is becoming the new status symbol.

This may feel archaic at first I know me 8 years ago would be enraged by this. I wanted to be proud of my body show it off and yell at people if they sexualized me at the same time. Here I am enraged at people for generations of objectifying and sexualizing women. People need to do the work to create change they dont just change over night. Because its de-programming something thats built into our society.

I also notice when I come across images like that on the internet I cringe a little bit. Because the energetic exchange isnt the highest vibration recieved. And thats okay I just get to keep scrolling or if on tiktok just say im not interested and move on. Because everyone is at a different place on their journey and im not here to judge or shame anyone.

Modesty and innocence makes me think of the church more often than not but I also think about the way women used to dress and how many amazing things there were to wear that could enrich how you feel about yourself without anyone knowing. Like the worlds best secret. You can find joy excitement and loads of other emotions that follow those lines. Also I find mystery is way more fun anyway.

Then theres the pure joy in innocence because my brain isnt spending energy sexualizing myself or others for external validation through social media thirst traps. Im spending more time looking for joy.

Now our reality is that women/womxn don't need to settle because we don't need anyone else any longer for our own well being. We are no longer property or a burden to our family. We no longer need validation from others because we can give that to ourselves.

We can learn to empower ourselves, love ourselves and feel fulfilled and that relationships are in fact a bonus and privlidge to add enrichment to our lives not a necessity.

Now we have spent lifetimes sexualizing women and their bodies.. to sell you things you dont need or to feel less than.

We also consum adult content to fill something within that is a passing feeling. That returns over and over potentially being used as an esacape. Skewing our own preception of intimacy and romance. Instead of working on ourselves to heal and end up in a healthy relationship if thats what you want.

Continuing the notion that our bodies are a commodoty because we are bought and sold within the content and other means....

Everything is an energetic exchange. If we take a step back and look at how much we sexualize all the things... no wonder why people cant get sex off their mind because its everywhere.

We have so much work to do for intentional interactions sex isnt a bad thing and its not shameful when its right. It can be a deeply spiritual experience. Relationships are one of the highest form of yoga and is a daily practice. If we are not ready to do that kind of work we are not ready to be in a relationship and its a waste of our limited time on this planet.

This is just some of what I was able to bring together to share with you. This conversation is much bigger than a blog post or instagram content. Its a genuine stand for women to set the bar where they want, to not be afraif of being alone, to find deep love for themselves and revrence for what relationships truly are. We as humans are so special and unique and worth all the time love and attention in the world but we dont always end up with people like that and we dont have to settle for half measures.